Friday, October 5, 2012
Abortion
Today, my mother said to me, "I should have had an abortion rather than bring you into this world."
Now, most of you are probably thinking, "What the hell kind of mother says a thing like that to her child?" When I secretly sent my sister, Mary, a text telling her what mom had just said, her reply was, "Wow". What a bitch." My immediate reaction was to just laugh. Was I hurt by mom’s words? Only a little. I know in my heart she didn’t really mean them. I'm learning that a disease like dementia will make even those whom you know love you say the meanest things.
Mom was having a bad day and she fully intended to take it out on me. I totally got that.
This blog is a journey for two sisters whose mother has been recently diagnosed with vascular dementia. It’s quite a ride. There are days when we are worried, days when we are sad, days when we are frustrated, days when we have unanswered questions and days when all we can do is laugh. The ride is much worse for mom.
Mom became a bit cynical as she aged, but she always loved a good laugh and was never afraid to laugh at herself. Mary and I are taking this process seriously. Who wouldn’t? But our motto from the start has been, “If we don’t laugh about this, we’ll just cry.” We’d rather see the humor in what we are going through...and so would mom.
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Well, I for one am so glad she didn't abort you Ann! Nice start on the blog and I love the title. I'm sure you'll be busy posting on this new dementia journey of which there is never a dull moment. Moments of stress, frustration, anger, and sadness for sure but my prayer for you, your sister, and your mom is that there can be more moments of hugs and humor, giggles and grins, and for sure love and laughter!
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